Riding Home: The
Power of Horses to Heal, St. Martin’s Press 2015
by Tim Hayes
An
Interview with Author and Natural Horsemanship Clinician Tim Hayes
As seen in Gina's iVIEW column
August/September 2015 issue of trueCowboymagazine
Author Tim Hayes is a Natural
Horsemanship instructor at The University of Vermont and The University of
Connecticut Departments of Animal Science and an internationally recognized Natural
Horsemanship Clinician. His new book Riding Home ~ The Power of Horses to Heal is recommended
reading for horse-lover and non-horse-lover alike. Riding Home reveals Tim’s dedication and passion to helping people
- including veterans with PTSD, Children with Autism and Youth at Risk - heal
through the powerful relationship between human and horse. Tim’s devotion,
compassion and life experience with horses is revealed in this wonderful
collection of stories that will inspire.
GM: When was your first encounter with
horse?
TH: It was 1993 and I was 48 years old. Some
friends of mine from New York City, where I was born and still living, had
moved out to Idaho to a town called Ketchum. Nearby there was a family owned
cattle ranch. They brought me over to meet them and we all hit it off. They
said, “Come on, ride one of our horses.” I said, “Okay, I’ll try it.” It was a
Quarter Horse named Spot and the 1993 Idaho State Champion Roping Horse.
The experience changed my life. I had
grown up in the city and never been on a horse. This horse was able to do
things that I simply thought about. If I thought “slow down” the horse would
slow down. I had no idea that it could be like that. From that moment on, I
wanted to learn everything I could about horses and have them in my life.
The same way that people take vacations
or take time off, I spent all my free time going to the Idaho ranch to learn
the required skills of a cowboy. For the next three to four years, I was taught
to ride, rope, brand and fix fences. I loved every second of it. By the end of
that time, of all the things that I was doing, I discovered I had an enormous
passion for horses.
I wanted to become a horse trainer and
learn everything I could. I was about to start studying with the head of the
ranch, when I read an article in the New
York Times about a man named Tom Dorrance. It was all about what was called
a gentler, softer way of horse training. They weren’t calling it “Natural Horsemanship”
then. That was before that name came around.
I picked up the phone and I called Tom
Dorrance in California. I said, “Tom, I would love to learn from you.” He said,
“Well, bring your horse and come to my clinic.” I said, “Not only do I not have
a horse, but I live in New York City.” He repeated what I said and I could hear
a lot of laughter in the background. He said, “Come on out, we’ll find you a
horse.” So, I went out and met Tom Dorrance.
I did a clinic with Tom and my life
changed again because Tom, who is now considered the father of 20th
and 21st century natural horsemanship, taught me to relate and train
a horse with compassion; to also look at our relationship from the horse’s
point of view, not just from my point of view. It was truly transformative. I
started to learn Tom’s ways and then find every person that Tom had ever taught
and to study with all of them. Over the next few of years, I studied with Ray
Hunt, Pat Parelli, Buck Brannaman, and whole bunch of others.
GM: Do you consider yourself a horse
whisperer?
TH: Let me share what I’ve learned from doing
a lot of research about the origin of the term horse whisperer. The term first
came around in the late 1800’s in Ireland. Back then there were two types of
horse trainers. There was a horse trainer who would train a horse so you could
ride it, and then there was someone called a horse tamer. A horse tamer was
hired to tame or gentle dangerous horses that had gotten out of hand with
humans; horses so violent, that in some instances they had actually killed their
owners.
A well-known Irish horse tamer, Daniel
Sullivan would begin his taming technique by taking the horse into a barn and
closing the door. He didn’t want anyone to see what he was doing in order to keep
his secret method a mystery, which also helped him charge handsomely for public
viewing.
Basically, his secret was what we now do
today with natural horsemanship - we control the ability of a horse to move its
feet just the way another horse would do… without force, fear or pain. We use
tools such as soft ropes and round pens. Once the horse feels and accepts that
you or another horse is controlling his movement, he submits and looks to you
or the other horse as his alpha or leader.
What happened was after Sullivan closed
the barn door; he would simply tie up one leg of the horse. He would then start
gently stroking him and whisper words of assurance and kindness that helped the
horse feel calm and safe. The horse couldn’t go anywhere so it was the tamer who
was now controlling the ability of the horse to move. The horse realized that
he was powerless but safe and therefore it was more advantageous for him to
submit to this non-predatory human than to attempt to struggle.
The people outside, although seeing
nothing of this, could nevertheless hear Sullivan’s whispers. After usually no
more than 20 minutes when the tamer calmly lead the now docile previously dangerous
horse out, an amazed public figured that what Sullivan had done was whispered
special words to the horse to change him so they started referring to him as a “horse
whisperer.” That’s how that term came about.
One hundred years ago horse whispering
was nothing more than what we now call natural horsemanship. If you ask if I’m
I a horse whisperer, I would simply say that I am a horse trainer who uses
compassion and horse psychology as a gentle method of training horses, as
opposed to force, fear and intimidation. Today this is referred to as natural
horsemanship. I hope that one day in the future we will all just call it “good
horsemanship.”
GM: Have you ever met a horse that you
couldn’t train?
TH:
What I became was a specialist in was training people to train their own
horses. What I found in the world of horse owners was similar to that of car
owners. If someone’s car needs fixing and they don’t know how to fix it (which
is most people) they bring it to a mechanic. Most people who own horses know
very little about horses. If there’s a problem, they will often take their
horse to a horse trainer.
Unlike a car, a horse has thoughts,
feelings, fears and needs. He wants a relationship with his human; mental,
emotional as well as physical. When you give your horse to a horse trainer, the
horse trainer is a professional and has lots of tools; techniques, knowledge
and experience, and can cause a change in the behavior of the horse as long as
he the trainer is with the horse.
Most often, when the trainer gives the
horse back to the owner, the owner doesn’t have the same knowledge as the horse
trainer. So usually the owner ends up doing what they have always done, and the
in time the horse ends up doing what he has always done. I found it’s far more
helpful to work with a person and their horse at the same time, and teach the
person what I’m doing so that after I leave they can practice and eventually do
it themselves.
There have been times when I have told
the person that I think their horse is too much for them, and suggest they
might want to think of getting a different horse. I’ll say that because it
appears they don’t have enough knowledge or skill for that particular horse
they would probably be safer and have more fun with a different one.
I could train their horse if I wanted to
bring it home and take the time to train it, but that’s not what I do. I would
rather work with the people with a different horse and give that horse to
somebody who just likes to train horses and not work with people.
GM: What are your views on the horse
slaughter debates?
TH: Although there have been some
long-standing problems with the conservation and management of America’s wild
horses, under no circumstances do I believe the solution is containment through
slaughter.
I can see the point of view from cattle
ranchers where, in some cases, grazing wild horses take food away from their cows
which impacts their livelihood. But I would like to believe that with all of
today’s modern innovations there is some way to maintain and manage our wild
horses that enables both the public and the ranchers to get their needs met. I just
don’t know enough about all the available options to know what the right answer
is.
GM: Your role in helping others through
Equine Therapy is extraordinary. How do horses help people through therapy?
TH: Gina, During the many years of teaching
natural horsemanship I became aware of how often people were attracted to and
wanted to be with horses that had very similar personality characteristics to those
of their own. Shy people often had timid horses, extroverted; risk-taking
people had very challenging horses and so on.
When I would point this out most people could
immediately see some of themselves in their horse. The horse’s behavior was like
a mirror that reflected back personality characteristics that were much like
those of the person.
For example if a person revealed to me
that they had certain problems with other people in their work or personal
relationships, these same problems would show up when they began interacting with
their horse. And just as they discovered that they couldn’t change another
person’s behavior without first changing their own behavior, the only way do
get their horse to behave differently was for them to behave differently first.
Over time this dynamic in relationships
between horse and human resulted in extending the benefits of Equine Therapy to
include the healing of human mental and emotional wounds.
The
Equine Therapy that had originally utilized the therapeutic movements of a horse
to help heal a patient with physical malady like cerebral palsy as they would
ride on their back, was now providing mental and emotional healing by having
the patient interact with a horse on the ground.
Today, we have veterans in Equine
Therapy who are experiencing powerful healing from their post-traumatic stress
disorder. Children with autism are having amazing breakthroughs in their
emotional health by simply receiving the unconditional acceptance from a horse.
Horses are also helping Youth at Risk, teenagers
who have gotten in trouble with drugs or have been kicked out of school and potentially
starting down a road to crime. Equine Therapy has been dramatically healing for
getting kids back on the right track and increasing their self-esteem.
However I think the most profound
development in today’s Equine Therapy has been its effectiveness in healing our
veterans with PTSD. Hundreds of
thousands of our young men and women have come home from war emotionally
crippled. There isn’t a cure for PTSD. Most professionals have not figured out
what to do about it. The only thing they have been able to offer is either traditional
talk therapy with a therapist or prescription pharmaceutical drugs. The vast
majority of the time these have been totally ineffective.
Today there are many equine programs available to the
thousands of veterans who suffer from the devastating wounds of war and
specifically PTSD. The Wounded Warrior Project, working in conjunction with PATH Intl. Equine Services for Heroes as
well as many other programs are all specifically set up to provide Equine Therapy
for veterans. Frequently this results in profound mental and emotional healing
for these men and women simply by creating an interactive relationship on the
ground with a horse
The reason Equine Therapy works is that for
someone with PTSD to begin healing they have to initially revisit the trauma
and talk about it. For many that’s too overwhelming and often why talk therapy is
so ineffective. For most veterans so sit and talk with a stranger about what
they experienced in war, is too painful.
With Equine Therapy the horse doesn’t
have any questions for them. The horse just wants to get along. It doesn’t
matter if the veteran has seen or done horrible things in war. Horses do not
judge other horses or humans, they only just their behavior that is happening
at that moment.
Often this can be the first time a veteran
comes home and experiences unconditional acceptance. For some, the healing that
has come from horses has been miraculous. I believe the biggest problem with
Equine Therapy is that so few people know about it and so little is being done
to support it.
GM: What does horsemanship mean to you?
TH: Horsemanship to me is a way to
describe a relationship between a human being and a horse, which I believe is
identical to a relationship between two humans. What I’ve learned is that in a
human relationship, whether it’s a husband/wife, parent/child, or best friends,
there are three ingredients that have to be present for the relationship to
work - love, trust and respect. In order to have a healthy, happy relationship
you must have all three.
If I love and respect my wife, but I
don’t trust her, the relationship won’t work. The same is true for horses. If I
love and respect my horse but I don’t trust him because when I go for a ride I’m
worried I might get bucked off, we’re also not going to have a good
relationship. If my horse respects me, loves me, but doesn’t trust me because
he thinks that every time he does something I don’t like I am going to hit,
whip or spur him, our relationship isn’t going to work either.
Horsemanship is based upon love, trust
and respect between a horse and a human. In the end, the same golden rule that
you and I were taught is exactly what is needed in horsemanship. We want to
treat our horses the same way we want to be treated.
I hope people will take
a look at my book. You can easily see what it’s about at http://www.ridinghome.com. And every book ordered will
help to benefit veterans with PTSD, at Risk Youth, children with autism and
children of families in need.
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2 comments:
Nice review, thanks. I am a UVM grad Lol but was gone before he even met a horse! I have read books by the Dorrance brothers and other trainers mentioned , this one sounds interesting as well. Enjoyed the part about the human often having similarities to their horse because I thought my horses were kind. I also know a wonderful boy who has autism, his first spoken words happened on the back of a horse & his family continues to be sure he has an equine connection. This is a book i will read thanks to you!
Diana
Hi Diana!
Thanks for your great comment! Tim is an amazing horseman. I highly recommend his book to riders and non-riders alike. Tim keeps you engaged throughout and provides insight to the joy of horses.
Happy trails!
Gina
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