Candace riding Shabeah |
Residing
in Tennessee, USA, meet author and equestrian Candace Wade. Candace is
the co-author of Horse
Sluts - The Saga of Two Women on the Trail of Their Yeehaw. Horse Sluts tells “how to face your fears. How to challenge yourself. How to
spit age in the eye -- on horseback.”
Along
with her co-author, Penny Langley, Candace writes, “We create audacious events that
surprise. People can't wait to play in our "sandbox."
Welcome Candace!
When was your first encounter with a horse?
We
all had the usual pony rides as a child. Then I had the "stay-ons" (I
know now I wasn't truly riding) bouncing for two hours in Griffith Park in Los
Angeles and Palm Springs. The spiffy
clothes associated with riding English moved me to take a few English riding
lessons in the Malibu hills in my late 20's. This was also "away
time" from my husband at the time. I was more interested in creating
myself than being married. Competing
wasn't my goal, so I traded the riding Saturdays for hanging out at the beach with
my girlfriend. Is there a study that
shows how many women use horses as an escape from (fill in the blank) and/or a
vehicle to re-invent themselves?
What horses do you currently stable and what are their
dispositions?
The
world is my stable because I don't own, I rent.
"Jag," a Paint Quarter Horse and "Shebeah" (as in
"she be a b****"), a grey Tennessee Walking Horse are the two main horses
in my life. "Shebeah" is my
favorite ride at Southeast Pack
Trips at Big South Fork, Tennessee. She's not really a b****. The owner, Larry
McMillan, calls her that because she bites him. Maybe he deserves it?
"Shebeah" is willing, fast, has a soaring walk. Her canter rocks like
a cradle. She makes me look good.
My
lovely "Jag" belongs to a teenage girl who rides and boards him at Equine Training Center in Mt.
Pleasant, Tennessee. He works as a
schooling horse for selected riders. His
previous job as a barrel racer makes him expect that every rider wants to fly
around the arena and make bat-turns. I
(and his owner) ride him English. He is
smart, willing, fast and is a tailor-made teacher for me. He challenges me just
enough. "Jag" is not social. I
have discovered this works with my personality. I have been reading Ride
the Right Horse by Yvonne Barteau. She breaks down horses' and riders'
personality types to help match them and to understand why we might not be
blending with our rides. I love "Jag." I don't expect/need him to
love me back. That would be about "me." My riding with him is about
"us" and him as my teacher. I
love to love "Jag." I don't need him to love me in return.
Congratulations on your book Horse
Sluts !
Thank
you for your support and acknowledgment on writing, completing and bringing Horse
Sluts - The Saga of Two Women on the Trail of Their Yeehaw to
print. My goal was to express Penny and
my experiences as creative non-fiction.
True, but visceral and visual.
The
blurb from our marketing card expresses the premise as:
When
memories of who we were and what we used to do smash at our egos like bugs on a
windshield, Horse Sluts gives a leg
up on recapturing the yeehaw of youth. It's how to stand up to fears, how to
challenge ourselves. Horse Sluts is for women who refuse to
surrender to age, women who embrace moving forward; it's for women open to the
thrill of freedom, of movement, of power -- okay, of controlling a large animal
between her legs. Yeehaw!
Penny
and I discovered early into the fantasy process of writing Horse Sluts that the book was not about us; it was about reaching
out to other mature riders who used to ride, never rode and/or wanted to feel
"juicy" inside again. Penny
and I are just the foils -- examples of overcoming the foibles of being a
middle-aged human.
How did you and Penny connect and collaborate?
Penny
and I became friends through another friend before my husband and I moved from
San Francisco to Middle Tennessee in 1999.
She and I were both in our 40's and plunged into riding lessons
together. We became dear friends and
riding buddies. After years of lessons,
riding trips and carting about within an eight hour drive to horse events, the
idea that writing a book about our crazy riding adventures became the next audacious
challenge. We dubbed ourselves Horse Sluts
because we didn't own horses and were motivated to do most anything to ride.
"Hey, Mister, I'll muck your stalls if I can ride your horse." Truth is, mostly we pay cold hard cash to
rent.
We
cobbled a list of riding trips we had taken (together and apart), our lesson experiences
and focused on what we felt. I started
to get a sense of how the stories could be organized as examples for the
learning and growing processes older riders experience. A "three act" form began to emerge.
Our journey of growth became the engine to bring the reader along with us.
Penny
would send her recollections and personal experiences to me to weave into the story
fabric. Her view is shown in italics.
Penny is an engaging, "sit on the couch with a glass of wine"
storyteller. I tried to replicate her
"voice" in those sections. As usual with us, we had no idea how to do
any of this, but believed if other people could do it, so could we. Much like
learning to post on the diagonal -- if kids can do it, so can we.
Where are the best riding trails in Tennessee?
Penny
and I are still exploring. Not owning,
we are a tad bit limited to areas where we can procure horses. Big South Fork on the Cumberland Plateau is
my fave. We rent at Southeast Pack Trips. We stay at either Laurel Fork Rustic Retreat or the newly
re-opened The Fork. It used to be
Wildwood Bed and Breakfast. We shop and party at True West Campground and Mercantile.
True West has a prime location at the entrance of the park for those who
trailer their horses to stable and camp.
We
enjoyed two hours of varied terrain just outside of Nashville at Percy
Warner Park. I have friends that love Bowie
Park for wide, loamy trails. Trailering to Milky Way Farm is on our list, too.
Describe a day in the life of Candace Wade…
Those of you who work at home know that beginning and end times and days off have to be brought to ground -- found -- lassoed -- respected. My day is a juggling act among marketing Horse Sluts (Facebook, e-mails, ferreting out PR and book related opportunities); writing for Horse Nation and Mature Lifestyles; looking for other freelance writing opportunities; quiet time to let new writing ideas seep into my brain; preparing to moderate a panel at the Equus Film Festival NYC in November; writing a sample treatment for a scripted version of Horse Sluts (just in case); carving out riding time and the usual home and husband stuff. I am a lark. Coffee and a stab at the NY Times Sunday crossword puzzle begins at 6:00 a.m. I check the week's weather in case I can go out to Equine Training Center to ride "Jag." My husband and I suit up to take our pooch out for a long walk, then zip over to the gym. We are back at our perspective desks by 9:00ish.
Those of you who work at home know that beginning and end times and days off have to be brought to ground -- found -- lassoed -- respected. My day is a juggling act among marketing Horse Sluts (Facebook, e-mails, ferreting out PR and book related opportunities); writing for Horse Nation and Mature Lifestyles; looking for other freelance writing opportunities; quiet time to let new writing ideas seep into my brain; preparing to moderate a panel at the Equus Film Festival NYC in November; writing a sample treatment for a scripted version of Horse Sluts (just in case); carving out riding time and the usual home and husband stuff. I am a lark. Coffee and a stab at the NY Times Sunday crossword puzzle begins at 6:00 a.m. I check the week's weather in case I can go out to Equine Training Center to ride "Jag." My husband and I suit up to take our pooch out for a long walk, then zip over to the gym. We are back at our perspective desks by 9:00ish.
Penny
and I soaked-up a seminar on a work discipline for success. Identify and focus on
the one thing that is the path to your goal.
Isn't this true when working to improve our riding? Find and focus on one thing that you can
accomplish -- do well -- then, move to another task another day (or, in your
work day, later that day). Facebook and Twitter
can be an explosive tool for marketing, keeping up horsey relationships and connecting
with new horse friends, BUT, it can be a blood sucker. Its siren call pulls us away
from our tangible lives. Facebook and
e-mails get their own time block in my day, then that's it. I put my fingers in my ears, focus on my writing
and repeat, "I can't hear you. I can't hear you." By 3:00 p.m. I'm blitzed. Then, time for
another dog walk; inventing something for dinner that my husband can identify
as food; laundry; garden; house and falling to sleep to re--runs of Law and Order.
What are you currently writing?
I
am scouting ideas and dogging interviews for new pieces that include: what is involved in "unstacking"
"big lick" gaited horses; how and when did soring and "big
lick" start; a friend who jumps sidesaddle on a stunning spotted mule;
mature riders who play polo; and pieces focused toward older riders (especially
those who don't own) and motivating mature people to claim their yeehaw. I am incubating a novel based on a film scrip
I wrote. Fiction writing scares me --
the "edge of the world" lack
of boundaries. I'm one of those who
feels comfort by rules and boundaries -- so I know where and when to bust them.
What are you currently reading?
My
reading is heavy on non-fiction. I'm reading Ride the Right Horse mentioned before. I have started The Broken Road by Patrick Leigh Fermor. Following picaresque journeys
sucks me in. Anything by Bill Bryson,
but especially Lost Continent and Neither Here Nor There. God's Middle Finger by Richard Grant is
stunning in its language and visuals.
Fiction? Anything by James Lee Burke and the Aurelio Zen series by
Michael Dibdin. I'm drawn to the
sensuous (gratifying the senses) styles of writing. I want to smell and taste
the crawfish po' boy and drink in the scenery as I'm led to the car crash of
the character's emotional adventure.
Do you have advice for novice riders and those looking to purchase
their first horse?
We
crafted our stories not to play-act as experts. That said I would look an adult
beginning rider in the eye and say, "Name your emotions and I've been
there. You are not alone. Take a deep breath and jump in."
Jane Smiley's interview "Everything
I Need to Know I Learned from a Horse" reaffirms much of what we older
riders experience.
I'd
pass on the advice given to me to work on one task at a time. You can say
"no" to any activity for which you have real fear or concern, but
keep giving them a try. One day, you will be the master of that fear. Turn off
your day, turn off your brain, turn off your "have to's" and trust
the horse. Acquiring a first horse? Like buying a used car, take along a
"mechanic" -- someone who knows horses. I would hope you would consider a
rescue. Close your eyes and choose with
your gut. Like with us, beauty is under
the saddle not on the face.
What does horsemanship mean to you?
Most
of us will never win a silver cup or perform airs above the ground. Even if we do, for me, horsemanship starts
with responsible care and stewardship.
It is a willingness to continue to learn and improve riding skills in
order to keep both horse and rider safe. It is patience and grace under stress.
It is turning the me into we on entering the barn.
Connect with Candace…
Candace on Jag with Penny at Equine Training Center |
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